情感和表达之间的微妙关系

最近在读一本叫做“20几岁， 可以改变女人的一生 ”的书本。。。短短一个星期里， 我在路途上阅读的时间就可以让我读到几乎一半了。读到至今， 我发现我可以改善的还有好多好多。 并且它会让人觉得这些调整是可以做到，而对我的将来有着帮助的。 不止是我，或许我周围的人也会有帮助。我也意识到我周围的人好多都做到了， 但是也有很多和我一样年龄的女生都还没做到。有机会， 有兴趣的话。。可以跟我借来读。。它的印刷的很精美， 保证读了不会闷。。

这是其中一段

“人们普遍认为， 只有在高兴时才会笑， 即“快乐”这种情感是 “笑”的先提条； 但在感情变化的时候也可以笑， 而且也能使人心情愉悦。 只是人来大脑的这种特殊功能鲜为人知， 因此， 即使没有值得高兴的事情， 也应该经常哼唱一首好听的曲子。 日子平淡， 也要保持微笑， 这样抑郁的心情就会烟消云散， 这是多么容易做到的事情！因此， 转换一个念头， 就能拥有一个简单而平常的笑容， 请保持一天的好心情。

有一个有趣的现象，如果一个人用心工作的画面背后，配上悲伤的音乐， 那么主角就会显得疲惫， 人们通常会以为这是一出悲剧； 相反的， 在同样的画面背后，配上愉快地音乐，就会凸现主角的勤劳， 预示他将来会成功。因此，我们应该为自己奏响人生道路上的background music。， 那么这场纪录人生旅途的电影， 就会在愉快的背景音乐下迎向美好的结局。 既然如此，如果能快乐地度过每一天，谁会感到不幸福呢？”

道理很简单， 那就是选择快乐

unfoUNDed childHood photoS from poPo house

题外话

I created a collection of the photos i taken with my colleagues in Wai Gao Qiao Venture...these are the jing hua photos that we have taken during our chinese new year steamboat, luxurious ktv session, birthday celebration, last meeting with my female colleagues and the last day of work...although this is very simple to do using picasa but i think it has summarise all the days at work .. basically I attached this doc and send it with a thank u email to my colleague when i back in Sin... and was glad tt they liked it..:) i m glad tt i did it for them

Main course is here la..

My 阿姨 and I ...can say is my 3rd mummy lor...(1st one of cos my real mummy and gugu mama lor) lol... she used to buy me lots of educational books and taught me lots of things... lots of stories from her when i always complained tt " ah yi wo shui bu zhao" hahah





This is a baby boy???
all these dont look like me meh ??? hahah this is my cousin who is one week younger than me.. we were at someone's wedding dinner


I found out all these photos at my grandma house when i visited her when i came back...den i took them down with my phone camera.. din wan to take it from her ...let popo admire them when she is bored hahaha...quite a few of them i dint see b4 lor esp the one i took with my 3rd mummy.. i dun rem i keep any photos tt i took with her... well i guess this is e 1st in my memory ...

other than photos... i have my soft toys to share abt my childhood! this is BABY MINNIE! with xiao wu gui by her side hahah.. i used to have a baby minnie soft toy when i was young but because my nose cannot tahan furry stuff den in the end i dunno where it went to...when i saw this baby minnie at disneyland I felt e urge in my heart tt i wan this toy even though i know its meant for babies hahhaha cos when u press e ear of e minnie got the sqeak sqeak sound...

i love this minnie until i will pat it like a baby when i feeling sad ..omg ... i m glad its with me by my bed now ..:) and its taking care of my xwg!


wondering where do i start my soft toys craze rite? that was during shanghai where my nose din give me any problems at all.. and we were feeling cold and it feels good to have something to hug .. let me intro u

From Left: my funny rabbit and my roomie's doggie ...wow i din know they look so loving
From Left: Hai bao ( mascot of Shanghai expo), my FUNNY! and doggie

FUNNY always look so sian... but the cute part is his SIAN look with his bigbig tummy..i will laugh at him due to his stupid look...

tadA! Assembling my new shelf

RED and WHITE combination! The white shelf is mainly assembled with e help of my daddy...budden the 3 red compartments that are being set up by me ! just a few steps of screwing and hitting makes me han liu jia bei lor..hahah..but i still enjoyed the fun of it..and my room looks more spacious and neat now le...i realised i did kept alot of books in my room ...even those teenage books i still cant bear to throw them away sia..
the red drawer is the tough one which involves the most number of parts...真有成就感

this show is definitely worth watching ... i laughed until siao and cry like siao also.. the main actress who acted as the Mother was really good in the show...at the funny parts she is cute...at the sad times.. she looks so lonely...there are more emtional parts than the 笑料...still it is a truly entertaining movie... throughout the movie i heard "tsk tsk tsk" sounds at he background whtn the kids did something 不孝 to the Mother.. 现场气氛的感染力也很强。GO bring ur mama and papa to watch ba...

anyway this is the 1st me going to watch preview it was so interesting to think that the actors are just sitting behind you watching themselves act on the screen haha.. and the encouragement they got at the end of the show is very direct...but i still shy dun dare to shake hands with Mother hehe... i guess they are very touched by 观众直接的支持..which is a very good start of showing of the movie ba..i guess ..imgining wad are e celebrities thinking haa..

Second round of packing since I came back

Yesterday I went Ikea with my family to get a shelf! this is the 1st time I experienced shopping the "ikea" style...wah at first it is like so ma fan that i have to locate the things that i wanted and note down their location...everything was going on quite slowly cos i didnt know what i wanted to get acty so i just decide on the spot... then the things i wanted and i saw from the catologue are quite hard to locate...plus the place very big i just went rounds and rounds...by the time i get the stock from the store... i m already feeling very warm liao...

stupid me stil bring jacket thinking it would be so cold in there...in e end tired like siao..

I spent this whole morning doing "summer cleaning" for the second time and I m tired like siao...managed to assemble the cabinets and chairs but i think e shelf itself i better wait for papa to do it with me ...lol...i cant find the hammer!..wl shall wait patiently for it to be set up later on ...show u all later:)

Realise that Complete Satisfaction Does not exist

Set your sights on being generally satisfied and generally happy, not on expecting every aspect of life to be perfect.

Complete satisfaction does not exist because everything can be improved upon. Those who accept this can appreciate what they have. Those who do not accept this can never appreciate what they have even as their circumstances improve.

Strive to improve. Don't try to be perfect.

-------Extracted from "100 simple secrets of happy people"

NaNNy wEi LiNG

Hey guys hee i think i shall give up on uploading pics here already... my photos would be shared on MSN spaces from now...all who has me on ur msn can see them.. just go into HOTMAIL, you would see a tab for named "SPACES" just click on it you would see the photos shared by ur frens


my work started with my nosE running!... heng this room isnt very cold.. and subsequently many many kids join in and the whole place became quite warm in fact ...then when i talked to my colleagues playing as MASCOTS..wahh they very ke lian i think.. they are suanaa-in inside e rabbit and barney!..and the costume is so heavy and the most impt thing is that they kana bullied by e kids lorh..pulling of tail...budden its so sweet to see hugs from them..too bad i din take a shoot of these cuties..

carToon potrait! i also wan lor ...zhu yi the artist draws with his both hands

sometimes i think there are more adults than children in the room haha

this girl was playing in the jumping castle...but she was so small and gentle in the shaking castle...i was so scared she got hurt and knocked down lor..so i brought her to do her drawing..:)rescue her from danger..very pretty hor she... just like a little princess..therefore i told her elder brother to take care of her..felt so envious when i saw him hold his hand around lorh hahaha...

i dunno why the CEO of the company event told me to take care of his kids in the hotel room..this was taken in the hotel room.. i was left with 5 kids and working tgt with 1 nanny lorh..so many of them to handle! i was like a bit lost at first, in fact bored in the room cos i wasnt with pauline and they kids are watching their "care bears" cartoon..hahah

i wan to talk abt this little princess...Anisha...she is a american born indian...look at her very pretty hor..her nose very ting de ...throughout the session she likes to sit on my lap and watch tom and jerry...and she dances for me to see wor...turn circles and circles i think i nearly yun dao haha.. i like to hug her when she looks so scared in the crowd of kids...oooh but she got another side of her which is scary..tts when shE MISSES her mumMY...she will crawl flat on the carpet! like any other kids lor..like gg to cry face and throw away anything tt u offer her...den i realised distract her with other kids or tv would be the best thing....the rest of the time i think i enjoyed chatting with aunty lili..( their employed nanny) quite cool leh she earns 15 dollars per hr.. i think quite gd part time when i m old ..haha...aunty lili also likes anisha best ..she says give her also wants to bring back home..yeah lorh ...i also agree

hahah glad tt jason waited for me to end the whole session cos pauline and the rest ended work slightly earlier le...budden quite a chong shi day cos i met my jcs frens to celebrate jieying's birthday!btw i must mention JIEYING : u must really try on the new style of clothes we got for u...you really look very diff and super feminine in it yesterday...surely will give u more refreshed look and UP ur confidence lor...jia you!:) must trust KOH KOH...

Personality from oli blog

how accurate are they to you? does it describes wl?

Harmony-seeking Idealist (HI)

Harmony-seeking Idealists are characterised by a complex personality and an abundance of thoughts and feelings. They are warm-hearted persons by nature. They are sympathetic and understanding. Harmony-seeking Idealists expect a lot of themselves and of others. They have a strong understanding of human nature and are often very good judges of character. But they are mostly reserved and confide their thoughts and feelings to very few people they trust. They are deeply hurt by rejection or criticism. Harmony-seeking Idealists find conflict situations unpleasant and prefer harmonious relationships. However, if reaching a certain target is very important to them they can assert themselves with a doggedness bordering on obstinacy.Harmony-seeking Idealists have a lively fantasy, often an almost clairvoyant intuition and are often very creative. Once they have tackled a project, they do everything in their power to achieve their goals. In everyday life, they often prove to be excellent problem solvers. They like to get to the root of things and have a natural curiosity and a thirst for knowledge. At the same time, they are practically oriented, well organised and in a position to tackle complex situations in a structured and carefully considered manner. When they concentrate on something, they do so one hundred percent - they often become so immersed in a task that they forget everything else around them. That is the secret of their often very large professional success.As partners, harmony-seeking idealists are loyal and reliable; a permanent relationship is very important to them. They seldom fall in love head over heels nor do they like quick affairs. They sometimes find it very difficult to clearly show their affection although their feelings are deep and sincere. In as far as their circle of friends is concerned, their motto is: less is more! As far as new contacts are concerned, they are approachable to only a limited extent; they prefer to put their energy into just a few, close friendships. Their demands on friends and partners are very high. As they do not like conflicts, they hesitate for some time before raising unsatisfactory issues and, when they do, they make every effort not to hurt anyone as a result.


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